The social buffer
Small talk is widely disliked to many people, it seems pointless it’s treated like a waste of time, why?
Well, because you rarely make deeper connections with other people, but small talk is not useless, it plays a critical role in your social success.
Small talk is a buffer it gives you the chance to gauge another person’s interest and investments.
You ask basic questions to see if you have things in common.
Now small talk is like standing in the shallow end of a pool, you could dive right into the deep end but the water may be freezing cold.
Instead, you slowly wade in the shallow end if the water is cold, you can stop but if the water is warm, you can dive deeper.
strangers test the waters with small talk if they get along they gradually open up to each other, if not, they can go their separate ways.
Small talk in other words lowers the risk of getting hurt, so change your attitude towards small talk people rely on small talk to protect themselves.
It may not be your favorite thing in the world but small talk can help you in the long run.
